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Is This Behavior or Disability?

$19.00

A Parent Decision Tree + Escalation Toolkit for IEP & Evaluation

When schools call it “behavior,” parents are often left doubting themselves.
This tool helps you decide clearly and quickly when behavior is actually disability and when to escalate for evaluation and support.

A Parent Decision Tree + Escalation Toolkit for IEP & Evaluation

When schools call it “behavior,” parents are often left doubting themselves.
This tool helps you decide clearly and quickly when behavior is actually disability and when to escalate for evaluation and support.

What This Tool Helps You Do

✔ Distinguish disability-related behavior from misconduct
✔ Identify nervous-system patterns schools often ignore
✔ Know when to stop waiting and request evaluation
✔ Respond confidently to school pushback
✔ Escalate without sounding emotional, defensive, or aggressive

This is not a law lecture.
It is a decision and action tool.

What’s Included

1. Behavior vs. Disability Decision Tree

  • Pattern-based questions (transitions, fatigue, demand, sensory load)

  • Clear indicators that behavior is disability-linked

  • Myth-busting around “school-only” behaviors

2. Escalation Thresholds

  • Exactly when observation becomes action

  • Signs that discipline is replacing support

  • Clear permission to escalate before harm increases

3. School Pushback Decoder

  • What schools often say—and what it actually means

  • Helps parents stay regulated and grounded when meetings get tense

4. Copy-Paste Escalation Email Templates

  • Early reframe

  • Formal evaluation request

  • Discipline → FAPE escalation

  • Low-energy boundary version for burnout days

5. Documentation Prompt

  • What to jot down before sending emails or attending meetings

  • Enough to support your request—without overwhelming tracking systems

Outcomes Parents Use This For

  • Requesting an initial evaluation

  • Responding to discipline or suspension

  • Pushing back on “wait and see”

  • Reframing behavior in meetings

  • Preparing for IEP or 504 discussions

Parents use this tool again and again, not once.